You know the sound of the sigh. Like the wind through the trees. It has an energy. It's the sound of irritation, frustration, judgment. The sigh isn't just about ADHD, it's more personal than that. hhhhuuuuuuhhmmm. <lips pressed together.> It's the sound of my...
There's a constant low level friction between us and them. Them being people who do not have ADHD, or choose to believe that anyone with a brain-based difference can simply, "work harder" and everything will be fine. Most of the people that expect us to work harder do...
People often ask me how to talk about ADHD with a partner. Presumably, this partner does NOT have ADHD. The only way I know how to start this article is with a story. ---- In 2007 I was packing up to move into my now-husband’s house. After two years of dating I hadn’t...
I get as many emails about breaking bad habits, as I do about creating new ones. “It is remarkable how little friction is required to prevent bad behavior. When I hide beer in the back of the fridge where I can’t see it, I drink less. When I delete social media...
There are tons of articles and podcasts out there screaming at you, How to Master Your habits with ADHD, or something similar. My favorites are the ones that use words like, "Take Control of Your ADHD." They make it sound like if you could just double down on...
I'm learning how to listen with ADHD, all thanks to Netflix! No but really, I have a love/hate relationship with streaming. On one hand it entertains me while I'm on the treadmill. On the other hand, it can be a time suck that allows me to numb out and avoid my life....
Mornings suck in my house. From what I can tell, most ADHD adults hate mornings just as much as I do. You know what I mean - something always trips you up as you try to start your day. Sometimes you're missing a shoe. (or a child) Other times, you find...
Food, diet culture, and ADHD women have been on my mind as of late. Actually no, they're on my mind all the time because we live in a culture where women are trained to think of these things from birth. We compare our own bodies to other women all the time, even if we...
You might feel like the idea of a building happier life with ADHD seems out of reach. Sorta like the size four jeans I wore in high school. The word happy is misunderstood in our culture. We think we should feel good all the time and never have any negative emotions...
I recently stumbled upon another annoying ADHD symptom I hadn’t notice before. It started during a fight with my mother. "Maybe I should tell YOUR friends about you." The statement hung in the air. The absurdity of it wasn't lost on me. Forty-one years old, and my...
