This is about the missed diagnoses, the masking, the hormonal chaos, the firefighting-your-way-through-life and then being told to just “manage it better.” As if women aren’t already expected to bend, shrink, and contort so we don’t inconvenience anyone.
Spoiler: you’re not the problem.
ADHD is tough, sure—but what makes it brutal for women are the gender expectations and structural BS piled on top.
That’s what this book is here to blow up.
From diagnosis nightmares and executive function fails to beauty standards, work, friendships, sex, motherhood, and menopause, it’s science, story, and dark humor rolled into a survival manual for women who’ve been told to just “try harder.”
If you’ve ever felt like too much and not enough in the same breath, this isn’t just a book—it’s a rallying cry.
About Liz Lewis
Honestly- I’m an introvert who hides behind my laptop 90% of the time.
I began writing in early 2015, hoping to build a community to connect with other moms experiencing ADHD – back when few others were talking about it.
Because I believe more in the collective power of women than in unrealistic, individual solutions, all of my offerings – a free and low-cost Substack, my book, You Are Not The Problem, and a small number of private coaching clients – are financially accessible and do not require long-term contracts.
When I started I was hoping to build a community to connect with other women and mothers living with ADHD. I remain the same person I was then, now. I have more experience and training, but I’m still committed to being genuinely helpful. I care more about how people feel when they talk to me, or read my work, than I do about building an online empire.